Are You Last On Your To-Do List?
“Allowing yourself to take a break is a sign of self-respect.” — Kelly Rudolph
Women are often brought up to care for everyone else first, and have only the time that’s left over for ourselves. That would be okay if there ever was any time left over, but there isn’t, and until we schedule it, there may never be.
No need to feel guilty taking “Me Time” anymore. Flight attendants instruct us to put our own oxygen mask on first before helping others, in case of an emergency. We can’t help anyone if we’re dead, and sometimes we die inside taking care of everyone but ourselves.
We hear often in the self-help world how important self-care is. However, we don’t do it enough, and it’s because we don’t know how. I think we have a perception that there’s a right way to do self-care.
There are many ways to do self-care. The thing about self-care is that it’s an active step. It’s making a decision, and taking an action with intention and purpose.
- If I’m exhausted, then I need to sleep.
- If my body is tense, then I need to stretch or move or get a massage to release tension out of my body.
- If my mind is tired, I may need to get some air, do some yoga postures to get more into my body, or a take a bubble bath and just let go.
- If my thoughts are negative, I need to shift my mood and energy.
- If I’m lonely, I may need a hug.
- If I’m carrying regrets, I need to find a way to let them go.
- If I need support, then I need to reach out to a friend, or therapist, or coach.
- If I can’t hear myself think, then I need to lighten my calendar and find a quiet place.
Self-care only works when you listen to your body, and do what you need without resistance.
The key is to do it in the moment and to know what works for YOU.
Why? Because in that moment your body is telling you it needs a break but only you really know what will help.
To me, that is self-care.
We’ve created a new Balance & Self-Care Guide called “Mastering Your Moods”. This toolkit will show you how to create your own recipe cards for emotional self-care.
Then,when you need them, you don’t have to think about what works for you, you can reach for the card that has all the reminders of what you know works for you.
Click here to access “Mastering Your Moods”.
What’s your favorite self-care activity? Share in the comments box below.
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